Not all girls are as "sad and cynical" as
I described.
But the statement I was responding to was
> In a sufficiently connected and unpredictable world, you can't seem good without being good.
So, this statement seems to claim to apply broadly.
So, I just said essentially that the statement
claims too much, that, for some counterexamples,
there are people
with behavior that contradicts the claim, e.g.,
some females, say, adults, using some of what
they learned as children, starting even in the
crib.
I didn't claim, and don't believe, that the
behavior I described, say, that you are describing,
appropriately, as "sad and cynical",
is common among either
males or females. But to counter PG's quite
broad claim, I just need some, say,
counterexamples; I've seen too many
of them.
More generally, from some of what I saw.
in a very "connected world",
some of the complexity of Presentation of
Self in Everyday Life can be
just astoundingly involved and complicated --
some very bright, determined people work
really hard at such presentation.
I would add, a very "connected world"
can lead to more complexity, posturing,
manipulation, difference between
reality and presentation,
etc. than a less connected world.
E.g., a person from such a more connected
world can
feel much better, and act much more like
themselves, posture, pretend, and manipulate less,
in a big city where they
have some anonymity. Presentation in
a "connected world" can be one heck of a lot
of hard mental work!
But the statement I was responding to was
> In a sufficiently connected and unpredictable world, you can't seem good without being good.
So, this statement seems to claim to apply broadly. So, I just said essentially that the statement claims too much, that, for some counterexamples, there are people with behavior that contradicts the claim, e.g., some females, say, adults, using some of what they learned as children, starting even in the crib.
I didn't claim, and don't believe, that the behavior I described, say, that you are describing, appropriately, as "sad and cynical", is common among either males or females. But to counter PG's quite broad claim, I just need some, say, counterexamples; I've seen too many of them.
More generally, from some of what I saw. in a very "connected world", some of the complexity of Presentation of Self in Everyday Life can be just astoundingly involved and complicated -- some very bright, determined people work really hard at such presentation.
I would add, a very "connected world" can lead to more complexity, posturing, manipulation, difference between reality and presentation, etc. than a less connected world. E.g., a person from such a more connected world can feel much better, and act much more like themselves, posture, pretend, and manipulate less, in a big city where they have some anonymity. Presentation in a "connected world" can be one heck of a lot of hard mental work!