When someone breaks up with you, do you believe them when they say "Its not you, its me!"? Lesson 1: Be skeptical. Lesson 2: Be really skeptical of humans offering insight into the real motivations for their own actions.

Lets go into detail on this. If you're going for a job interview, you don't get the job, and you're given some feedback, several rather unlikely things have to line up for that feedback to be truthful, useful, and accurate.

1. The interviewer has to actually be able to accurately gauge the metric they think they're measuring (and most interviews don't). 2. The interviewer has to actually be relying primarily on that metric (and most interviews aren't.) 3. The interviewers have to actually be able to have the insight to know the real reason you aren't given the job (and most people don't have good insight into why they make decisions, and there's often a layer of bureaucracy involved as well) 4. The interviewer has to actually be able to tell you the real reason you aren't given the job (they can't tell you if the reason is illegal, or if circumstances have changed, or if someone is trying to save face/not admit something...)

How can I put this gently. Its all bullshit.

Could I be wrong? Sure, but if you're a betting person, I know which way I'd bet...