Don't hate the player, hate the game. The social incentives are arranged such that individuals are encouraged to use shibboleths and loaded language of this nature lest they be branded as an enemy. Such is the consequence of rhetoric such as "silence is violence" or "if you're not with us, you're against us," that forces nonbinary folks to declare binary allegiance as either an Ally or an undesirable. Absence of such loaded language that clearly identifies one as an ally thus implies that they are an enemy, and rejects the possibility of a spectrum of views that exists between two extremes. Those who fail to declare or abstain are excommunicated and identified as hostile actors (irrespective of their own self-identification).