I mean you literally have women saying they take it if they are cheating.
> Some of the women were prevented by their male partner from taking or continuing PrEP: “I showed him the pill. He immediately stopped me from saying more before mentioning he had heard about PrEP and that he was strongly against the pill... He ordered me to throw them away or else pack my bags and leave. And that was why I stopped taking them.”
Here’s some more explicit quotes [1]:
> Another concern was that partners would interpret PrEP use as evidence of sexual activity outside the relationship.
> “I didn’t tell him about the pills. I was hesitant because he will say, ‘Why are you preventing HIV? Are you cheating now because we don’t have HIV so why are you taking pills?’ So, I decided to keep quiet. I am going to tell him. But for now, I haven’t told him about it.” PrEP User, Lower adherer, Age 21
It even makes sense that your partner taking PrEP would be seen as evidence of having an affair if you are convinced that neither of you had HIV prior. So not only do you continue on doubling down on a losing position, it’s not even an illogical line of reasoning to have.
I’d say the burden of proof is on you at this point that such an interpretation isn’t a social norm or that it’s even an illogical position to have.
> Some of the women were prevented by their male partner from taking or continuing PrEP: “I showed him the pill. He immediately stopped me from saying more before mentioning he had heard about PrEP and that he was strongly against the pill... He ordered me to throw them away or else pack my bags and leave. And that was why I stopped taking them.”
Here’s some more explicit quotes [1]:
> Another concern was that partners would interpret PrEP use as evidence of sexual activity outside the relationship.
> “I didn’t tell him about the pills. I was hesitant because he will say, ‘Why are you preventing HIV? Are you cheating now because we don’t have HIV so why are you taking pills?’ So, I decided to keep quiet. I am going to tell him. But for now, I haven’t told him about it.” PrEP User, Lower adherer, Age 21
It even makes sense that your partner taking PrEP would be seen as evidence of having an affair if you are convinced that neither of you had HIV prior. So not only do you continue on doubling down on a losing position, it’s not even an illogical line of reasoning to have.
I’d say the burden of proof is on you at this point that such an interpretation isn’t a social norm or that it’s even an illogical position to have.
[1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9245881/