> In some places, it's "gay" if two guys hold hands.
Sure, but that doesn't mean those two guys are gay.
> On the racist bit: it can be hard to disambiguate why someone treats you in an unfavorable way -- it could be because they're actually racist or they could just be a pissy person who hates their job.
Just because a person or group of people classifies you a certain way doesn't make it universally true.
It might not be universally true, but it is subjectively true. That's the difference: even if you think you're not being racist, you might be racist from the PoV of someone you were racist towards.
Sure, but that doesn't mean those two guys are gay.
> On the racist bit: it can be hard to disambiguate why someone treats you in an unfavorable way -- it could be because they're actually racist or they could just be a pissy person who hates their job. Just because a person or group of people classifies you a certain way doesn't make it universally true.
It might not be universally true, but it is subjectively true. That's the difference: even if you think you're not being racist, you might be racist from the PoV of someone you were racist towards.