Family can be a great place to provide connection, purpose, someone to lean on and so many things. But it can't be our only solution - it can't be required to get along - because not everyone has a family that can provide this. Some people just don't have a family outright (often the most vulnerable people in the first place) and some don't have families that are outright harmful.

Other kinds of community including religious groups, sports teams and even work can help, if set up right. People have to be able to be in them long term (which means no precarious jobs) and actually build connection.