He lives in Germany too, where it takes way more effort to turn an incidental encounter into something more.
And I agree with you. I think, for a lot of these guys, if you literally never ever get a good chance, then of course that you go into "monk mode". I only fell in love the first time at 22, because I met a girl who I found amazing. The second time at 28, again because I very randomly met a girl who was amazing.
> He lives in Germany too, where it takes way more effort to turn an incidental encounter into something more.
This is a classic, I've heard people say stuff like this in basically every country that I visited. I don't think it is something that can be measured, it's just something super subjective and a bit of a stereotype.
From my experience, I've noticed that typically individuals will say this of people with their same nationality (or from their own country in general). The same individuals will then argue that "Oh, I've been in country X and girls/boys are way easier to date" but I don't think that is related to the country itself.
… this sort of stuff is not just a “stereotype”. This stuff is real. This is measurable.
I am Portuguese - Brazilian. The gap between meeting and making new friends is gargantuan between the two countries. You can meet Brazilians for an hour or two and they’ll invite you to some gathering at their home. Portuguese people will do this less. And I’ve lived in England where this is even harder to make friends. London is the loneliest city in Europe and where people have the lowest average number of friendships.
It’s not just a stereotype. There are HUGE cultural differences.
I have to agree with this as a Brazilian. More over you can see the differences between countries very easily, it becomes even more apparent when you look to non-western non-eurocentric countries. Each country in Asia has its own way of meeting new people.
BUT there always exceptions (a lot of exceptions actually), and you shouldn't change your country based only on that. It is easy to find exceptions, shy people on Brazil, extroverts on Portugal, people who want something serious, or just date you a few times. The world is very diverse and there is a LOT of people that you can talk too. I can't say that these cultural differences make that big of a difference to be honest
This might be true of Germany though. I did find people aren't really open to meeting / forming friendships there. Not in the way they are in some other countries (well.. from my own travel experience, mainly the U.S. and India).
Having lived in different countries, there are a huge regional differences in how highly people regard the rules of the road and look out for other vehicles and pedestrians.
>He lives in Germany too, where it takes way more effort to turn an incidental encounter into something more.
Hogwash.
You are used to a different culture is all.
As a German it does not take more effort to turn an encounter into "something more", you are just not used to the customs.
And I agree with you. I think, for a lot of these guys, if you literally never ever get a good chance, then of course that you go into "monk mode". I only fell in love the first time at 22, because I met a girl who I found amazing. The second time at 28, again because I very randomly met a girl who was amazing.