Are you seriously bringing up education of girls wrt to Afghanistan? It was an excuse to appease some Europeans to stay longer ( specifically the Dutch ).
No leader or country will ever start a war because of some diversity concerns.
The bigger point is that life for everyday Afghanis was better under the American occupation than it is now. (Partly because the Taliban can't feed them.) Too bad the warlords didn't agree.
Afghanis are starving now and Afghan girls can't go to school. (Yes, the Taliban are saying girls will be able to go to school again in March. We shall see.) Western allies spend huge amounts of money building roads and other infrastructure in Afghanistan, much of which the Taliban destroyed. Do you need links? Because you can probably google it as well as I can.
You can't, on the one hand, claim that the Western allies were a malign influence in Afghanistan and also claim that Western aid is the only thing that can keep Afghans from starvation.
Except for the generation of Afghan girls that got to attend school for the ~20-years that the US was in charge.