I went to glass containers for food storage and transfer food out of plastic packaging as soon as possible.
Precocious puberty: I had a mental health hit (near collapse) from something that happened in my mid 20's. I started dating the stepdaughter of a neighbor (upper-middle class area) who said she was 19, and she definitely seemed it by being smart, chill, age-mature, sensible, and fully-developed (Tanner V). Lo and behold: she was not 17, 16, or 15, but 12. 12! WTH? I felt awful, ashamed, and like a perv monster. Thankfully, nothing illegal progressed but it was way too close and that would've been the end of my life. The worst part was I really liked, respected, got along with, and was attracted to her. Why, human condition, why? Torture. Sigh.
If she was biologically mature, being attracted to her doesn't mean you are a pedophile. Attraction is a result of biology, not of man-made laws. It would of course still be illegal to date her.
The last psychiatrist has written about that, but I couldn't find it right away.
Confused? No. She passed herself off as that, acted, and looked the part completely. Size D. Extreme precocious puberty. You would've been fooled too, so please don't judge with perfect knowledge and 20/20 hindsight from afar if you weren't there.
My life experiences have nothing to do with ignorant generalizations or what you think is impossible. You can either accept what I describe with benefit of the doubt, or you can be a prick trying to moralize, judge, and castigate from the comfort of the armchair quarterback chair. It's your choice.
Our maybe you reacted to breasts and ignored mental maturity. And yes, I have experience with 12 years old. Their beats size is unrelated to their brain maturity and you absolutely can tell them apart from 19 years old.
You haven't met every 12-year-old. I have a daughter that fit his description, both body and mind, except she wasn't seeking a boyfriend. At 12 she was taking college classes, getting only "A" grades. Nobody suspected a thing. All her friends were much older than her, and they all assumed she was much older. This was without make-up even. Her behavior is more adult-like than that of a typical adult. She gets annoyed by the childish behavior she sees in many adults.
You might even know somebody like this. Unless you demand a photo ID to verify the age of everybody you meet, you just can't be sure.
> Are you aware that many models you see in magazines are only in their early teens, made to look older with makeup?
I'm not sure what this proves considering you can manipulate photos to look like anything. I would be able to tell within minutes of talking to them in person -- as would any reasonable person -- which is what the discussion is about. If you want to go that route though, actors are almost universally older than the characters they play, especially characters in their teens.
It can also be true if someone experienced extreme precocious puberty from unknown causes, is highly gifted and a voracious learner/autodidact, is emotionally intelligent, went through some shit in life, and basically had to become the "adult" (became authentically internally-stronger and didn't fall apart) of the family and of siblings when their birth parents were irresponsible and infantile. Improbable? Sure. It happened. Keep judging, impugning, and denigrating from afar.
Dude you got lucky but not in the way you think you did.
You found this kid that had a rough life and that led you to bond with her.
That could be something good, but you bonded with her in a way that's entirely wrong for an adult to do with a vulnerable minor. You got lucky in that you got that warning about yourself to try and change a dangerous behavior. You don't think of yourself as a predator for what you were doing but that's what it makes you.
You may mean no harm but you will cause it if you keep down this road.
Look into this critically and seek help instead of blathering about puberty.
If they look under 30 ask for ID. ID could be fake so get to know family friends and story too. I think a few good questions about life could spot a 12 year old from a 19 too.
> I think a few good questions about life could spot a 12 year old from a 19 too.
It would take a really good liar to be able to pass for a 19 year old at 12 years old. You'd have to weave a really complex web of lies around being almost out of high school (I'm not American so not sure if this is true), drinking, driving. At 19 your life is so different, I find it very hard to believe, except if she's some highly intelligent sociopath.
Precocious puberty: I had a mental health hit (near collapse) from something that happened in my mid 20's. I started dating the stepdaughter of a neighbor (upper-middle class area) who said she was 19, and she definitely seemed it by being smart, chill, age-mature, sensible, and fully-developed (Tanner V). Lo and behold: she was not 17, 16, or 15, but 12. 12! WTH? I felt awful, ashamed, and like a perv monster. Thankfully, nothing illegal progressed but it was way too close and that would've been the end of my life. The worst part was I really liked, respected, got along with, and was attracted to her. Why, human condition, why? Torture. Sigh.