You are indeed mistaken about this fact, and it's somewhat telling that this is the version of the story which reached you. Go ahead and read the explanation from the moderator herself - https://judaism.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/5193/stack-....

As far as has been publicly stated, nobody was advocating misgendering, there was only a question over details of the policy. See footnote 1 to the OP here

https://judaism.meta.stackexchange.com/questions/5193/stack-...

"as a professional writer I, by training, write in a gender-neutral way specifically to avoid gender landmines, and sought clarification that this would continue to be ok"

> nobody was advocating misgendering

That isn’t true. Monica didn’t advocate misgendering but there was at least one other moderator (since resigned) who did. I’m not sure if that’s what iron1003 was referring to since it wasn’t as well publicised as Monica being kicked out (not resigned) but it triggered some of the subsequent events.

Ok, I stand corrected. Monica who got fired, was not an advocate of misgendering.