It really helps to make friends who can talk about their flaws. By being open about the things you’re working on, you make it acceptable to be imperfect and then you won’t be so nervous about someone finding something unlikable about you. They definitely will, but that doesn’t matter. You are a good person, who has the potential for a huge net positive impact on the world, if you harness your potential. Check out some of Jordan Peterson’s interviews on Joe Rogan, he has a lot of good stuff to say about how to get your life into a shape you’re happy with.