Yeah I was sort of disappointed with the general response here as well.
"If I don't think your experience is valid, _it is not valid_. Oh you have that experience? Well it's wrong. Get a new one."
The fact is that it was upvoted because it is - to some degree - a shared experience, an experience which resonated with others. If we invalidate these experiences, we don't fix them - we suppress them. You may be able to invalidate engineering problems, but it does not work the same for interpersonal ones.
"If I don't think your experience is valid, _it is not valid_. Oh you have that experience? Well it's wrong. Get a new one."
The fact is that it was upvoted because it is - to some degree - a shared experience, an experience which resonated with others. If we invalidate these experiences, we don't fix them - we suppress them. You may be able to invalidate engineering problems, but it does not work the same for interpersonal ones.