I'm sorry to read this. I've watched the single board computer space slowly lose ethernet; the connector is too large. I'd love a board with two built-in ethernet connectors so I could route traffic. With Soekris exiting the market, what options are now available?
Possiby not what you want to hear, but personally I have always bought (usually for peanuts) used (fanless) "thin clients" and added a PCI NIC, they make very good routers on the cheap, and since (originally) the machines were sold for lots of money to the enterprise market, they are generally very good quality/well built, sturdy, suffer not from overheating, etc.
If you want to buy "new" there are several suitable mini-itx boards available.
I migrated about a year ago from using net4801s to Ubiquity EdgeRouter Lite devices. The EdgeRouter Lite has 3 Gigabit ethernet ports. I got to keep my network topology and the software was flexible enough to mostly configure it how I wanted. I had been using a "from scratch" custom built Linux on the net4801s, but it was becoming more and more painful to keep up to date.