Why would you think that women are looking for something to get offended about?

If I was looking for something to get offended about I wouldn't hide behind male usernames on Stackoverflow, my local user groups, Hackernews (obviously not this account) and Github to avoid conflict. I just want to be a normal part of tech communities, on and offline.

It's absurd that you can write off the large portion of women who say there's a problem because you don't want to examine you're own internal biases.

> Why would you think that women are looking for something to get offended about?

Clearly, not all women are looking for something to be outraged about. However, there is a vocal minority that loudly takes offense at friendly gestures, like in this particular instance. That's what I take issue with.

> If I was looking for something to get offended about I wouldn't hide behind male usernames on Stackoverflow, my local user groups, Hackernews (obviously not this account) and Github to avoid conflict. I just want to be a normal part of tech communities, on and offline.

That's more of a consequence of the erosion of anonymity in the Internet, than you being a woman.

> It's absurd that you can write off the large portion of women who say there's a problem because you don't want to examine you're own internal biases.

Large portion of women according to whom? I'm not writing off anybody either, I'm asking people to critically examine a concept and judge for themselves. I think you ought to think for yourself a little bit more, onee-sama.

>That's more of a consequence of the erosion of anonymity in the Internet, than you being a woman.

No it's a consequence of men seeking out my social profiles on other sites and offering to give me "extra help". Also dick pics.

>I'm asking people to critically examine a concept and judge for themselves

That's exactly what you're being asked to do. Women in the spaces, including myself, aren't looking for things to be angry about, we are looking for acceptance and the ability to enjoy our hobbies/passions and professions in peace. Insisting that everything is just a misunderstood friendly gesture is ridiculous and part of the larger culture that make certain groups of people feel unwelcome in tech.

Exactly. What people seem to ignore is that getting along takes work, takes giving people the benefit of the doubt, and it takes leaving your ego at the door. Otherwise you are difficult to be around. When people complain that they are "constantly belittled" in cooperative environments, as stated in the article, with emphasis on constantly, that signals that their negative interpretation is the common factor in all these normal interactions with random people.

>getting along takes work, takes giving people the benefit of the doubt, and it takes leaving your ego at the door.

And once again, why do you think that women haven't already examined this and realized that the interactions they have in certain environments are something beyond needing a little understanding? It's not like women walking into hackerspaces haven't been around nerdy, awkward men before- half of them are nerdy, awkward women.

Implying there's a simple solution that is summed up as "women don't understand!" is ridiculous.

> Implying there's a simple solution that is summed up as "women don't understand!" is ridiculous.

Are you really suggesting that because these women have a hard time integrating in communal environments, that it means all women have problems integrating?

Constantly being irritated with how everyone interacts with you is personality trait, found in any race, gender, orientation, or identity. It's not genetic. I'm not sure why you're saying these people speak for all women.