You can't delegate software engineering to a rando off Craigslist, especially if you're an employee. (If you're a contractor and your contract allows you to do that it's just irresponsible, if not, it's a fireable offense.)
You have to want this though. Otherwise you're just going to be saying "you're not my boss" and "stop nagging me" repeatedly, and that's not going to be good for your relationship. I've been there.
Some of us procrastinate because we have ADHD. I hear there is a cure to ADHD procrastination, it's called quitting your job and becoming an enterpreneur, but that's a little extreme and may result in a huge loss in income and job security for someone who's currently working at Meta.
No, that doesn't work. It has to be a person whose job is specifically to watch you. A coworker or a subordinate - that's not their job. And frankly that would be inappropriate for them to do that, especially if they were a subordinate.
> Is 'ghetto' racist? What would be a better word insted?
It is not a word we use in this context in the UK, I think, because ghetto for us doesn't mean what it means in the US, it means Jewish ghetto in WW2, i.e. it's a word we only come across in history classes.
But what does it mean? What are you trying to convey by using that word?
The good thing about my type of ADHD is I get addicted to things and then lose interest in them. TikTok is no longer exciting for me now, now that I am just using it for live DJs and checking out the videos my best friend shares with me and not much else. Got addicted to Reddit and then Twitter for years but now my Twitter addiction has largely been replaced with Manifold Markets. The key is to find balance, or to impose a rule on yourself that you only go to the problematic site a little bit unless you have spare time, or to find something else more exciting.
I can see therapy working well for someone who has unprocessed trauma or depression, but I have ADHD, and my ADHD specialist has told me that the medicine part is for the symptoms, and the future therapy part of the treatment is for unlearning coping mechanisms that I may have developed to work around my ADHD symptoms, that I would no longer need due to the medicine doing its job. I'm not sure what they would be exactly, but I don't see how they would be holding back my productivity that much.
P.S. most people don't have unprocessed trauma or depression to a clinically significant extent. If you think they do, you are living in a bubble (of melodramatic people perhaps? of therapists?)
People are saying the original post is weird but honestly I think this is weirder. There is no way I could do this. You must be super-extroverted to be willing to let it all hang out publicly, warts and all.
Obviously it's important to make sure you aren't bothering other people in a way they cannot easily ignore. You shouldn't make too much noise, especially at night, or create too much smoke or other bad smells. But being weird hurts no one. Why should I limit my own freedom out of fear of being weird? If it seemed to have a negative effect on my job prospects I might be less weird, but I find the opposite is true. Being weird has probably had a negative effect on my dating life. Then again, I don't want to date someone who is going to restrict my creative freedom by hating my weirdness anyways. Being a coward is far worse when it comes to finding dates than being weird, and being weird in public can help you learn not to be a coward.
I also see letting it all hang out publicly, warts and all as being a sort of protest. If the only ones publishing coding streams were the [Jon Gjengsets](https://www.youtube.com/c/jongjengset) of the world, people like me might simply give up. Surely I'm not the only imperfect coder. Surely I'm not the only one in the world who has spent 10 hours bashing my head against the wall because of a silly typo. I'm here to shout from the hilltops, that it's OK to play amateur football. We don't all have to bend it like Beckham to have fun!
I guess the main thing though is, that I don't really believe anyone will watch all my videos, so I don't feel self conscious doing them.
The bar for what is considered "problematic power dynamics" among the woke and/or left seems to be getting lower and lower.
Recently I've seen the claim that a meetup organiser shouldn't flirt with meetup attendees, because reasons... power differentials I guess? The idea that a fully-grown woman should be capable of noticing a power differential and making her own decision as to whether to enter into a relationship, with that in mind, didn't seem to have occurred to the poster.
But this really takes the cake. Someone is paid to sit at a desk with their laptop and do virtually nothing for >= 5 hours and cook at a basic level for <= 3, and that's problematic according to you? Dude that's like the easiest job in the world, if you can cook (I can't, but that's besides the point). And she can use her laptop so it's not even like she's going to be bored to death (and if she is, she should quit, simple, problem solved).
If he was the one "watching porn" then yeah, but it was one of his assistants! Or maybe she was joking.
I also note that there was not even a hint of flirting or "problematic" sexual/romantic behaviour from him in this account, so any problems in that arena would mostly likely originate from your own imagination.
You're bringing your own axe to grind to this conversation. I did not say anything was "problematic" nor do I believe anyone's agency was infringed upon here. Frankly, it's much weirder than that.
OK, so why did you bring up power dynamics at all? Are you saying that this won't work long-term because he'll realise that the power dynamics are the wrong way round? That's the only way I can think of that it would be relevant, if it's not problematic.
