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I hope there's a cure for hair loss but it's too late for me.

My doctor doesn't want to prescribe me finasteride or deuteroxide because of the negative health side effects, even though I was persistent. I was told by my doctor to "come to terms with it" because he's bald.

Guess what, you're a doctor buddy, you'll be attractive to anybody you talk to.

I'm just a lonely IT guy with no life and no social prospects, so any leg up to keep my sanity would have been appreciated - oh well, hope the next life bears fruit



You know you don't have to let yourself be gatekept by a doctor, right?


It's either go through a doctor, get a prescription and have it covered in some capacity by insurance, or I go order from a third-party/online solution and pay hundreds of dollars for something I desperately want, but won't be able to sustain financially because insurance won't cover treatments without a prescription.

I've already depressedly resigned myself to going bald - my hair is too far gone to have any medication or treatment give any meaningful amount of restoration.


I mean you can try another doctor. I am surprised that you have to pay more than 10 euro per month though.


You're not allowed to find another doctor?


you very much do, in probably most parts of the world.


There is always a way


lonely […], no life and no social prospects

Let’s say there’s a magical pill that gives you amazing hair. You’ll still be a lonely IT guy with no life and no social prospects.

I don’t mean to offend you, but don’t you think that you could work on these things for guaranteed massive benefits instead of hoping for a pill that might work somewhat?

Whenever I hear people this desperate about their hair loss I notice how it just exposes a psychological problem that was always there.


>Let’s say there’s a magical pill that gives you amazing hair. You’ll still be a lonely IT guy with no life and no social prospects.

>I don’t mean to offend you, but don’t you think that you could work on these things for guaranteed massive benefits

Let's look at an extreme example: suppose there's a lonely IT guy who looks like Quasimodo or worse. Someone that unattractive is not likely to have a great social life or much success in dating, for obvious reasons. Would you also tell him "you just need to work on your self esteem for massive benefits!!"? Sorry, but society doesn't work that way. Attractive people have a much easier time in life and dating.

Rightly or wrongly, OP thinks having a full head of hair would improve his attractiveness, which if he's correct, would probably improve his life to some extent.


Would you also tell him "you just need to work on your self esteem for massive benefits!!"? Sorry, but society doesn't work that way.

which if he's correct, would probably improve his life to some extent.

I would tell him to work on himself physically, mentally, and socially. Just like I said in my previous post: even if you give a loser good hair, he will still be a loser. I don’t think his life would improve at all.

He may get some fake self-confidence (take away the hair and the confidence is gone again). But women would not find him attractive because of the hair but because of the confidence, but they’d snuff out that it’s fake very quickly. He can have confidence without hair as well, and have the same benefits. In fact bald men exhume vast amounts of confidence for saying “fuck it, I don’t care, I will shave it”. Meanwhile balding men look like they can’t come to terms with what’s gone being gone, desperately holding on to the last sickly strands of hair because they think that’s their ticket to getting a partner. Even women who make bald jokes will find a man sexy and manly for reacting to it confidently.

You speak about baldness as if it was some festering disease that’s always negative, but it’s not. Physical attractiveness is based on looking healthy. If you’re Quasimodo: fat or scrawny, have no muscle and a zombie face (no energy), a woman might ask herself how a cancer patient is going to have a healthy baby with her and provide for the family. But if you have some muscle, some tan and look rested, they will assume it’s natural.

And like there are hairstyles some people can or can’t pull off, a bald head or buzzcut are the same. Some people genuinely look the best without hair, because of their head shape. I don’t think The Rock would take a hair pill, because he looked silly with hair. And even if you look bad without hair, it will always beat the balding look by far.

What I mean by psychological issue is that it’s rather evident that the parent loves to focus on things he can’t control rather than what he can. This a common pattern. People will blame their erectile dysfunction on age, genes, and microplastics, rather than not doing any exercise at all since they became adults, stress, bad sleep and garbage nutrition So they take a pill, have surgery or buy devices like pumps to fix the problem, like we also see for balding.




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